Ruger Max 9. Second choices were Shadow Systems (just like a Glock but slimmed down handgrip) and the Kimber Micro 9 Scorpius. This shop pulled out five or six Kimbers; which flavor do you like>? Others were Sig, Springfield, Glock, S&W. They had a Ruger Max 9 new, and one with a Crimson...
Find the shop with the most Micro 9's and feel and molest them until your hand tells you what you like the best. I did that with one shop with 7 different brands. I think when I pulled the trigger on the Sig 365, I said the word "Mattel." It felt like a toy trigger.
He reported years ago how he was able to buy a modern sporting rifle up near Albany, put it in his car and drive it down the Thruway, down to NYC and drive around Brooklyn with it. He was shocked that someone could actually do that and get away with it. That is some logic.
I can't and don't recall the exact details, but about 6-8 years ago MO senate passed a bill that if anyone even brought up an anti-gun bill it would be referred to as criminal. Can't remember if that person would then be arrested or not.
Start doing it. I think it will improve your situation. I do it and never have a problem. Maybe look at bringing the setting for your sizing die lower on the case just above the shell plate touching. ?? I won't hesitate to shoot some lube up in the decap-sizing die either on an occasion...